I’m a big fan of essays and memoirs, but I know a lot of people who don’t like them because they think an essay or memoir is self-absorbed. While sometimes this is true, the best personal essays that I’ve read end up not being self-absorbed at all. And it’s these fantastic essays that leave me willing to forget about the essays that aren’t as good.
I hadn’t been able to articulate my idea about what makes a good essay well until I came across an interview with memoirist Diana Joseph where she explained her idea of an essay. The interviewer asked Joseph how she could turn her “you had to be there” stories into good writing for the book. Joseph responded,
That’s the thing about an anecdote, right? It’s usually only hilarious if you were there. Sometimes, though, the story is interesting even if you weren’t there, and for me, that happens when I care about the people in the story. My students and I call this “Species Recognition.” Readers need to recognize these people as fellow humans.
But while the story needs to be good, and the characters need to be developed, there’s still the matter of what it means and why should the reader care. In order to push the anecdote beyond “You had to be there,” the writer needs to reflect. The writer needs to answer to the question of, “So what?” And the best answers go beyond the obvious, the clichéd. For me, a good piece of writing will lead me to two reactions: recognition — I know exactly what you mean — or revelation — I never thought of it like that. The best writing gives me both.
What Joseph articulates are the two most important parts of the essay, the rewards the reader gets for going through the piece — recognition or revelation. You need to either feel like you’ve connected to the essayist by understanding or feel like the essay has helped you think in a new way. Personal stories can do that, if they’re written well and the author makes an effort to move beyond themselves. Essays that don’t try to provide that little something extra tend to fall flat and stray into the land of self-indulgence.
Tomorrow, I’m going to post a review of I Was Told There’d Be Cake by Sloan Crosley, and a lot of my opinion of the book comes from thinking of it in these terms, so stay tuned!
Do you like to read essays and memoirs? Why or why not? Does the idea of “recognition or revelation” make sense to you? Do you have a favorite essay?