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Personally | A Week of Highs and Lows

Hey friends. It’s been quite a week, so much so that I don’t really have much of anything to say to fill in my normal Sunday post.

It probably makes sense to start with the low of the week: the boyfriend’s father passed away late Saturday morning after about a week in the hospital. He’d been having some ongoing health problems, but he ended up in the hospital after taking a fall in their house. He spent much of the week sedated and on a ventilator, but eventually all of the medication and stress on top of lung and heart issues was too much.

The boyfriend went out to be with his mom on Wednesday, so I’ve been holding things down at home since then. It’s been a huge roller coaster, but I think everyone feels a little relief that he went peacefully and before his quality of life had diminished too drastically. I’ll be heading out to Milwaukee sometime early this week to do whatever I can, then we’ll be returning home together.

In all of that, at least one exciting thing has fallen to the wayside — I bought a new car!

new car 2016

As IĀ mentioned last Sunday, my current car was starting to have some problems. They turned out to be fixable at a reasonable price, so that was good. But I decided to go ahead with my planned new car purchase anyway and picked up a 2016 Subaru Impreza from the dealership on Wednesday. This is the first time I’ve ever owned a new car — it feels like one of those adult milestones that I finally got to cross off.

With all of that going on, I haven’t been doing much except trying to keep my head above water. A huge thank you needs to go out to my parents, who have been more helpful during a crazy week than I could have ever asked them to be, and to friends and coworkers who have been incredibly kind. I keep trying to think of something appropriate to end this post with, but I’m just drawing a blank. So, thanks in advance for all your well wishes and good thoughts.

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  • bermudaonion (Kathy) February 14, 2016, 9:40 am

    I’m so sorry to hear of your boyfriend’s loss. Losing a parent is tough.

    • Kim February 15, 2016, 7:01 pm

      Thank you, it really is.

  • Sarah's Book Shelves February 14, 2016, 11:38 am

    I’m so sorry to hear about your boyfriend’s father. That’s super tough. It is a blessing that he went without a long, protracted diminishment in quality of life. My husband’s father went in a similar way a few years ago and they are still really thankful that it was relatively peaceful and fast.

    • Kim February 15, 2016, 6:59 pm

      I think with time it’ll definitely feel like a blessing that he didn’t have to go through some of the medical procedures that were coming, even if now it feels very raw.

  • Kay February 14, 2016, 2:28 pm

    Oh, I’m so sorry for the loss of your boyfriend’s father. Sigh. It’s tough losing a parent, even if it is the ‘best’ thing for quality of life. Hard when you aren’t quite ready though. Will be thinking of you guys this week as you work through all the things that need to happen. Pretty car by the way. Hope you enjoy it!

    • Kim February 15, 2016, 6:58 pm

      Thank you so much, we appreciate all the good thoughts for sure. The car is pretty — gray and sparkly!

  • Florinda February 14, 2016, 3:56 pm

    So sorry about Nate’s dad, Kim. Falls are such troublemakers! Thinking of you all–take care of each other. And enjoy the new car! I wish I weren’t so far away, but if you need anything, you know where to find me. {{hugs}}

    • Kim February 15, 2016, 6:57 pm

      Thank you šŸ™‚ It was a tough on, certainly a bad fall, but I don’t think anyone thought it would turn out this way when he first went to the hospital.

  • Melissa F. February 14, 2016, 5:53 pm

    So sorry to hear about the boyfriend’s dad. My condolences to all of you.

    A brand new car (said in my best Price Is Right voice) is a glorious thing indeed, isn’t it? There’s nothing like it. Enjoy!

    • Kim February 15, 2016, 6:57 pm

      It’s so exciting! I didn’t think I’d be that thrilled about it, but every time I get in it makes me smile.

  • Citizen Reader February 14, 2016, 9:15 pm

    Oh, Kim, I’m so sorry. My condolences to your boyfriend and his mother as well. Even when it might be “for the best,” losing a parent and partner leads to so many adjustments. Stressful. I am hoping for the best for all of you.

    • Kim February 15, 2016, 6:56 pm

      Thank you so much šŸ™‚ It’s going to be a big change for everyone, hard to tell what it will mean for all of us going forward.

  • Laurie C February 15, 2016, 10:04 am

    A slice of life…joy and sorrow mingled together! It’s nice that there is family all around to share in both.

    • Kim February 15, 2016, 6:55 pm

      Yes, absolutely. Family has been so important the last few weeks.

  • Stephanie February 15, 2016, 11:07 am

    Condolences on your loss. What an emotional roller-coaster you’ve had. Please be sure to take care of yourself through all of this. Hugs!

    • Kim February 15, 2016, 6:54 pm

      It’s been very, very up and down from day to day. It’s sad now, but at least the emotions are more leveled out.

  • Athira February 15, 2016, 11:53 am

    So sorry to hear about your boyfriend’s father. Sending warm thoughts your way – hope his family has the strength to bear this.

    Yay for a new car! Hope you have fun driving it.

    • Kim February 15, 2016, 6:53 pm

      He’s an only child and was able to be out there last week during the most difficult period, which I think was really good.

  • jennygirl February 15, 2016, 12:58 pm

    My condolences on your loss. Thoughts and prayers your way.

    Congrats on the new car! It is an adult step for sure and gotta love the new car smell! Good luck and enjoy.

    • Kim February 15, 2016, 6:52 pm

      I didn’t notice the new car smell until today — I think it was so cold I didn’t notice!

  • maphad February 15, 2016, 1:05 pm

    So sorry to hear about your loss. Please do be sure to take care of yourself.

    • Kim February 15, 2016, 6:48 pm

      Thank you, and I will šŸ™‚

  • Jennine G February 16, 2016, 4:18 pm

    How incredibly heartbreaking. Everyone is in our thoughts and prayers. Enjoy that new car though – it’s such a good feeling.

  • Jenny @ Reading the End February 16, 2016, 6:40 pm

    Oh, no, Kim, I’m so sorry to you and your boyfriend and his family. What awful news. I know I’m a bit late to this — BBAW is using up all my time, and I’m miles behind on blog commenting — but I’m sending y’all all the best wishes and prayers.

  • Michelle February 19, 2016, 1:43 pm

    My sincerest condolences to your boyfriend and his family. I hope this past week was easier for you both. Losing a parent is so tough. You are both in my thoughts!

  • Allison @ The Book Wheel February 19, 2016, 7:35 pm

    I’m so sorry for your loss and my sympathies to all of you.

  • susan February 20, 2016, 8:43 pm

    Sorry about your boyfriend’s father. That’s tough. But congrats on the new car. Wow that’s nice.

  • Katie @ Doing Dewey February 23, 2016, 10:21 pm

    My condolences to you and your boyfriend. I’m sure this is a tough time for your both! I hope things settle down for you soon.

  • Masanobu February 28, 2016, 10:58 am

    I can’t imagine what both of you must be going through, but I offer my sincere condolences.

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